What is wrong with today's youth, and why are they so disrespectful and obnoxious?

Just to clarify before any questions are asked, I am in my mid 60's and was raised well as a child.



So I'm thinking, so many teens and young adults are rude, disrespectful, and obnoxious.



Two weeks ago ago I was sitting in the metro, and I heard a group of teenagers swearing and yelling while an elderly person was looking around shocked. One of the teens laughed at him and shouted "DON'T LOOK AT ME F*GGOT". The elderly person got off the metro immediately. There were also young kids around that were exposed to this foul language.



Some days later I was at PF Chang's with my son and daughter-in-law and I saw a teenager loudly talking about the waitresses's buttocks with his friends to the point where all the other diners could hear, to the point where I complained and the manager had to kick all of them out.



Then only earlier this week I heard an awful story from my son. He was peacefully minding his own business and taking my 7 year old granddaughter for a walk in the woods. They came across teenagers and my granddaughter waved at them and said hi. In response one of the teens loudly verbally harrassed my daughter by shouting "SUCK MY D*CK" and other obscenities at her before laughing and walking away.



And earlier that same day I myself was peacefully walking in a shopping complex near my apartment when two teenagers sitting on a ledge start making obscene high- pitched sex noises at me as I pass them, and I could hear one of them shout "grab that p*ssy" so I turned around and glared in anger. I was just so fed up of the inappropriate and mannerless youth I kept observing.



They butt in line and are so loud and inconsiderate in public, no courtesy, no sense of old fashion politeness and humbleness. I remember when I was younger, society was far more polite and young people were poilet and respectful of themselves, elderly, and young. I'm not too sure what the reason is but I have a few ideas. I may get bombed for this but I came from an all girl school highschool and am highly feminist but there are roles which both genders must play.

- TV's, Games, Movies are their influence. Imagine having a bratty spoiled tempermental Paris Hilton as a role model, or the Joker from the new batman(don't get me wrong, I loved the Joker) as a role model. Imagine kids playing the game 'Bully' and acting on it.



- Bad schools, I hear in BC that the government is forcing teachers to pass failing kids so it won't 'damage' their confidence. Even some colleges are doing it. Which is very bad. If they have it easy until they have to have a real career or job, they will fall to pieces, that is worse for anyone's confidence then failing a course in school.



- Both parents are at work. Now don't get me wrong. I was a very strong career oriented woman but I nevertheless spent a great deal of time with my kids.Kids need guidance, supervision, censorship, discipline, rules. Many kids are aching for it. Many parents don't even know what their kids are up to. They just leave the children to play on their own. They need to have good parent role models so they learn to respect other people. If a daughter has a bad father, she will have relationship problems and develop a father complex. If a son has a bad mother figure, he will disrespect women. Call me old fashioned but I believe that one parent has to stay with the child. It has been like this forever, many animals do this, even the males. The only animals that leave their children to fend for themselves are not very evolved creatures such as turtles and insects. We are not even a fraction close tho those animals.



What are your thoughts on this? Do you think youth is getting out of hand? What do you think the reason is. I wrote this question so other people anger at youth or society for making these youths can vent. I apologize if I offended people but I really do think that society is a bit messed up right now.What is wrong with today's youth, and why are they so disrespectful and obnoxious?
I am 63 and I totally agree, however, I must say I don't know where you live but it sounds like you might want to move. I live on South FL and am around many teens, many of whom are rather rude, but NONE of them are anywhere near the level of what you describe. Sounds like Los Angeles.

In any case, the fault lies totally with the parents. Parents do not parent any more, they want to be friends/buddies and they always take the side of the teen and lash out at the victims of the rudeness. One example, some teens were bored one night then went and set a homeless man on fire and laughed while he burned to death, when they went to court the parents said "Well, boys will be boys." And this was MURDER. And there are thousands of cases of teens being horrible and the parents could care less. So it doesn't look good for them or for society in general.
and just too think the Generation of people before you... thought the same thing about your generation
Most teenagers aren't like that.
and another thing.. adults are to blame.
A twisted society= twisted people= twisted family's = Twisted Youth
if you think your generation hasnt played its part in the way todays youth are then think again.

Your generation wasn't perfect.. and neither is mine
back in your day.. people abused their kids... beat them with gardening hoses... knocked them off porches.. punched them in the mouth... beat there kids out of rage.. with kinds of foreign objects extension cords.. shoes....etc.. etc..
and they neglected their kids.. didn't really know them.
They didnt raise there kids right.. and did em wrong.. were too hard on them
which is why a lot of people your age are in nursing homes right now.
kids got older and took it out on you all.What is wrong with today's youth, and why are they so disrespectful and obnoxious?
Maybe it's the city, or neighborhood you live in. Teenagers in my area, do not act like that in my area. Maybe, you can try to start a youth group in your neighborhood. That way, you can help troubled teens.
I really do not agree with you. In fact, one of my pet peeves is when people make statements, such as yours, that all young people (or the great majority) are rude. I am probably the same age as you and I have yet to come across a rude teenager. I frequent the mall, volunteer at the highschool, and generally I am quite active socially. I go to college athletic events. I've always been treated with respect. I wonder if you have a smile on your face or perhaps have a disapproving look, or perhaps look like you are scared of them. I always smile and say hi. I have to admit I do not take public transportation.What is wrong with today's youth, and why are they so disrespectful and obnoxious?
Seriously. The media enourages. And the parents tolerate it. Both parents at work is a great example. Back in my day and my parent's day there was more of a community, aunts, uncles and neighbors all getting involved. With each succeeding generation, they get more and more disrespectful. Today, in many states, you can have your kid taken away from you if you spank them in public. That was NOT the case back in the 80's. I was spanked in elementary and am no worse for it today. And I have always had much respect for my elders. I would never mouth off the way kids do today.

And I commend you on your "wall" of text. Sometimes details and examples are needed.
DOUBLE RAINBOW ALL THE WAY.