Why do I get judged for being an anti-violent mother?

My friend's 7 year old son is obsessed with Batman/Joker, and the Hulk. He often climbs around and jumps off of high furniture. When she tells him to stop, he replies, "Well, I'm Hulk and I can't get hurt!". I have 7 children, 3 are boys. They are 5, 6, and 10. I don't allow them to play with anything violent whatsoever, because I don't think they know the difference between reality and fiction. My friend tells me that I am raising them to be "*******" because I don't allow them to have swords or action figures. My 10 year old loves video games, but I only let him play Mario games and such, without violence. I won't let my kids watch anything with any violence until they're 13. I think it rots their brains, the same as I don't let them have candy very often. What's your opinion on this?Why do I get judged for being an anti-violent mother?
I have 6 kids and I didnt allow guns or violent incentive games either.

They are vegetarian kids so they never got/get artificial candy..or crappy junk food. They are antiwar,accomplished artists %26amp; musicians and globally conscious people from 8-26 yrs old. While their action figure playing friends have gone off to die for oil .. I think your homphobic friend needs to have her kids removed and placed in a healthier more nurturing family
Your kids will see plenty of violence before they're 13. Sorry, there's just no way around it. Sheltering them does no good...Why do I get judged for being an anti-violent mother?
I only have two boys and like you i do not like my kids to play those games, watch movies with violence and play with swords. Indeed like the other lady replied we cannot shelter them forever, but as long as we can we better as life is what we want to make out of it. I do not see the fun in killing so why should a kid play he is killing a person. I admire your dedication as with 7 children it is all ready hard to just get them fed and ready and you go the extra mile!
The candy thing is a little off, but being an anti-violence mom is normal! That's just your way of being a mom.Why do I get judged for being an anti-violent mother?
I'm a 13 year old girl and my parents recently started letting me see R rated movies.

I'm also very mature and intelligent...and probably more level-headed than they are at times - I'm very philosophical and have a unique view of the world and life.

It basically depends on how mature your child is. But your friend is right, to a point. Boys will be boys, and overprotected boys will have gay tendancies and will be teased in middle school. One of my friends is sheltered and she was bullied throughout elementary school (not her fault) but her mom is being more lenient as time goes on.
I think you need a reality check- we live in a violent world. It sucks but you have to let your children know what goes on and let them see things, other wise they will grow up like Ned flanders kids on the Simpsons. Just let your kids be kids okay- get over it, and get over yourself-
I myself would never tell you its is wrong and if anything I have learned you I believe are doing to best thing most of us missed the boat on. I believe there is enough of this going on and the bulling in school is bad. So I have to stand with you on this. Good luck and Merry Christmas to you and family. Letting your kids go wild and doing what every else is doing doesn't make it right , that is how the kids become bullies. Take your stand and go for it. You have support for this.
I think what you are doing is Awesome! More moms should take a hint from you. Children do not understand the difference between fiction and non. I think it's a great idea that you do allow them to chose to watch a little bit of violence when they are 13, because it is important for them to experience what is out there in the world. It sounds like your friend is trying to raise her sons to be macho man jerks! Just because they are boys does not mean that they should be violent!



Great Job and Keep Up the Great Work!
You're the parent, so you get to decide what's best for your children. Trust your gut instinct. I never bought toy guns or weapons for my son and he still found a way to create them out of something else.
ok well as far as all the violence goes I agree to a certain extent, my dauhghter has non violent toys only (well very fake neon color squirt guns are the only "weaponary" in the home) I dont shield her as much from the television however nothing to violent and we usually discuss the situation (she is 8 and can hold down one heck of a conversation) like how she feels when she sees someone being treated badly and how she could do something if possible and also when a situation could be to violent for her to help, I think we do a disservice to our children if we raise them in little closely guarded bubbles only to be let out into the real world as an adult and have no clue what is going on. However action figures can be great for imagination, like dolls for girls, action figures do not have to be violent at all. I also teach her that the reason that she has no weapons and we dont play violent, is because in no way is violence fun and the point of play is to have fun and learn neither of which needs to be violent.
My son is eight. He loves superheroes, yet he's one of the most non-violent kids you'd ever meet. He knows the difference between reality and fiction, because *I explain it to him*. It's not that difficult, once you credit them with actually having a brain.
Well,I don't totally agree with your thinking, but those are your kids. I can't see how you are hurting them in any way, so keep doing it.I am a nonviolent person, and my parents raised with with dirty Harry movies. Your boys are your responsibility,teach them what you feel is right and to heck with other peoples opinions.